5 Things to Keep in Mind Before Group Sex

Article by Ben Haynes

Exploring sexual expression is one of the best parts of life, and there's no better way to do that than to try new things regularly! Whether you're single or not, this particular topic is one you might want to take advantage of. If you frequent gay-centric events and gatherings, you might inevitably encounter a scenario that involves a group of guys having sex together. This can be an incredibly hot and exciting adventure. Still, it's essential to not forget some of the unspoken rules.

There Might Be Guys Involved You Don’t Want to Fuck

Let's address the elephant in the room. Sometimes, in group settings, there's someone you can't stand. Maybe they're absolutely annoying to you. Perhaps you're just not attracted to them. Whatever the case, you might not find every guy in the room sexy, and that's OK. Consent is still the golden rule, even (and especially) in group settings. If you're not feeling someone in the group, keep your distance as best you can, and if needed, say "no, thank you" to that someone. Don't be aggressive; you won't have to worry about killing the vibe! Arguably, there are plenty of other guys for you both to give attention to anyway.

Communication is STILL Key

We've all seen those porn videos with groups of guys fucking each other and switching positions, partners, and more left and right. They do so without even uttering a single word (aside from the usual moans). This is, of course, hot but not totally realistic. Remember, porn is staged and rehearsed. Regular old sexual encounters aren't (usually). If something doesn't feel right to you, say so! Speak up if you're not into something someone wants you to do! If you want him to go harder, tell him! Use your voice! Don't risk putting yourself in an uncomfortable situation to please someone else.

Share!

Arguably, you will find someone in the group more attractive than the rest. This is your shot to show him you've got what it takes to drive him wild! Give him everything you've got, but not for too long. Group sex means there's plenty to go around, and it should! Don't hog the hottie just because you're getting off. Take your turn, move along to another guy, and maybe he'll return for a second shot!

You Might Fuck a Friend

It's possible that wherever the sex is occurring, you didn't go there alone. If you and a friend wind up in a group sex setting together, it's possible you could be exploring your friendship in a way you might not otherwise have planned on. Again, consent is crucial. Don't do it if you and your friend aren't comfortable with that! But if you're both OK with it, enjoy! It can only bring you closer, after all.

Safety First

Everyone in the group must be crystal clear about safe sex. Don't put yourself into situations where you could potentially hurt yourself. Many gays take PrEP, but not all do. You should only engage in the safest sex practices in group sex settings. Ask, and be ready to share your sexual health stats with those around you. Use condoms if unsure, and, as always, don't do anything you're uncomfortable with! Group sex should be an exciting and hot thing for everyone. Follow these tips, and you should be set for a memorable and hot time. (And don't forget the lube…)