The Chastity Pod Gents Fill Us in on All Things Locked
Well, well, well, you naughty, naughty readers—we’ve just come out of Locktober and drifted into No Nut November. If our inboxes (and web traffic) are any indication, y’all have been absolutely devouring our chastity posts. Good for us—and good for curious you.
So, we figured it was time to lock in (dad vibes pun fully intended) with some expert guidance. We reached out to our favorite connoisseurs of all things chaste and locked: Locked Fist Monster and Denied Dumpling, hosts of the ever-insightful and brilliantly funny Chastity Pod. Together, they’re here to walk you through your journey into the world of cock cages, long-term denial, embracing the role of “hole”, and leveling up your chastity game.
Sit back, relax, and let us drift you away into a world where good boys stay locked.
Eris (E): Before we dive in, I have to thank you both for doing this—and my friend Jerry Burt for turning me on to your podcast when I was writing my first chastity piece. I thought I’d listen to an episode or two… fast forward to me becoming enraptured, bingeing every episode, and continuing as a loyal listener today.
The podcast is so much more than just chastity info. You’re hilarious, unapologetically open about your sex lives and kinks, and you know who you are. You share in such an unflinchingly honest way. You started during COVID— did you have any inkling that you’d now be wrapping Season 3 and heading into Season 4 with a massive following?
Locked Fist (LF): That’s so kind, thank you!
Any inkling of three seasons and a mass following? None whatsoever. Our initial plan was to record a few episodes that would answer all the questions a person could
reasonably have about chastity in a decent amount of depth. So we made those first few episodes, released them, and patted ourselves on the back for a job well done.
Then everyone started asking us when season 2 was coming out…
Denied Dumpling (DD): At the advent of Season 2 we weren’t even sure who would be interested in being interviewed, let alone the fascinating individuals who immediately said yes to jumping on our lil pod!
We have met a lot of our heroes by doing this podcast - and made a couple new ones! It is always exciting to meet someone new, hear them spill some jaw dropping sexcapades, and find new ways to inspire your own play - on a podcast no less. All this to say, we’re incredibly humbled by the talent that comes onto our pod, and also by the love that we get from our listeners.
E: To give people an overview, for those not yet familiar with you both: knowing that locking one’s penis is a personal kink that spans both LGBTQ+ and straight communities, what drew you to chastity in the first place? What keeps it part of your play?
DD: As early as high school, I was googling “men tied up” and “men in bondage” on the family computer, so I was always curious about BDSM and power exchange. But when I found out about chastity, it all just made sense!
Locking your penis away—which I assume most men have a deep relationship with— perfectly encapsulates three components of power exchange that turn me on like crazy:
- A willingness to self-sacrifice
- Determination to stay in this state of denial
- Submission to a keyholder/Dom
As a masochistic submissive currently owned by a Master, being locked every day is a great way to show that I’m committed to service and submission to him. I’d even argue it’s an inseparable part of my sexual identity.
LF: For me, my love for chastity grew out of bondage and Dom/sub kinks. I love them both, and I’m a switch, so I enjoy it from both ends. But I found it really hard to stay in a subspace during my bottom scenes.
I had all these hot fantasies about subbing, but I couldn’t experience them. Either I’d jerk off while thinking about them—killing my interest—or the top would be too focused on my dick, and I’d cum too soon during play. Then I came across some chastity porn, and it ticked all my boxes. I love the subby headspace that putting on a cage gets me into.
E: What advice would you give to someone who has heard all the fevered buzz around locking and wants to give it a go, but they don’t know how or where to start? Is there physical or mental prep involved, or is it just finding the perfect fit cock cage and going all in?
LF: For most people, there’s no “perfect cage” right off the bat. People’s tastes evolve as they play, and what was once a great cage becomes too big or too occlusive or too ugly over time.
My advice for starting is if you’re in a city with a shop that stocks Kink3D cages, or going to a kink festival where they will have a stand, is to get fitted for a cage in person. The second best option is to measure your flaccid junk a couple times-along with your base ring size (around your cock and balls)-and then buy a cheap cage off amazon you like the look of.
DD: Beginners should set reasonable expectations too! Your dick and balls need to get used to the friction and feel of the cage, which can take some time. Wear it for a couple hours at home, then take a long break. Slowly increase the duration over time and then integrate it into short everyday tasks. (Wear your cage while doing laundry and tell yourself you can’t take it off until you fold everything!)
Over time your dick and balls will acclimate to the cage for longer wear. Last but not least don’t forget to lubricate with lotion to reduce friction often!
E: You talk a lot on the podcast about keyholders. Is having one the ultimate endgame? How do you advise someone on building trust and expressing hard limits with a potential keyholder, especially considering the major power exchange?
DD: Good keyholders have to be great at open and consistent communication. Locked boys require a lot of attention and support to be successful and long-lasting.
LF: For some people finding a keyholder is the ultimate endgame! But everyone’s journey is different. Some prefer self-locking, some prefer only being caged for a scene or a couple hours, not days on end.
I recommend getting to know your potential key holder in person, same as you would when negotiating any sort of power exchange/ kink scene. Trust builds over time. And, of course, keep an emergency key to unlock with in case your key holder is unavailable.
DD: There are also people who self-lock because it's also an easy way to communicate that they prefer to bottom. I personally know a few tall bottoms who lock their dick away at kinky events since people often assume tall men are tops.
E: Okay, so you’re all locked up. Your cock cage is fitted and on point. You’ve either got someone holding your key, or you’re relying on willpower of steel. Maybe you’ve even waxed all your body hair off to complete a desired look.
How do you stay locked? How do you embrace the possible new role as “hole” and stay motivated?
LF: The easiest way for me to stay locked is not to have the option to unlock. So my cage is a customized to go through my Prince Albert piercing, meaning once it’s locked on, it’s impossible to pull out of. And then I have a special lockbox for my keys where once locked, I can’t get them out. If my motivation fails, I have no choice but remain locked.
DD: Set a goal that is realistic but a challenge! And set a generous reward for yourself when you meet that goal! Or, if you have a Dom/keyholder, you can set a punishment.
Regardless of the motivation, make sure the reward or punishment is enough to incentivize the duration of your lockup. Back when I first started locking up weeks at a time Sir [Sir CJ, his Dom/Owner the last 7 years] would reward me with an incredible edging session at the end. To this day those are some of the most intense orgasms I’ve ever had!
E: Is there a misconception that chastity is only about the orgasm, or, more to the point, the denial of said orgasm? I mean, when you look at Locktober, No Nut November and Denycember - like a whole quarter of a year of cum build up - Is the denial itself, both physical and emotional, something deeper than just waiting for a release?
LF: There’s a couple misconceptions in there. First, there still are orgasms. In my case, I have insanely good anal orgasms when locked. Some guys can cum through having their cage vibrated, or through nipple play.
Second, for me, the horniness that builds up from being locked - and that doesn’t go away with an anal orgasm - feels so much better than jerking off.
DD: There’s a special state after a certain period of locking up where I am trapped in a horny haze. Once I learned to preserve and stay in that state, I found out that sex feels 100x more incredible.
This is what I’d consider “chastity nirvana”. Physically my body is so pent up and my nipples, hole, and body become increasingly erogenous and sensitive. Emotionally I become open and suggestible and eager to please myself and others. This is a special state that I think a lot of chastity veterans chase and try to stay in - and it’s the main reason why I prefer to stay permanently locked up for long periods.
E: What are your tips for going into a serious long term lockup without losing the first kiss type thrill as the time passes from days to weeks to years? Does introducing other kinks like fisting, BDSM or sensory play into the mix help?
DD: That’s an excellent question and from our podcast we’ve learned that chastity complements with many other kinks seamlessly. Locked pups, chastity in feminization,
cucks, the list goes on and on. People start with chastity and find out they want to be more kinky and try new things all the time.
LF: I was already kinky before getting into chastity play, so definitely using other kinks keeps the thrill alive. I also find that my kinks evolve over time.
When I first started playing with chastity, I wasn’t much of a bottom. Now, nearly 14 years later, I’m a huge fisting bottom. That didn’t happen overnight. It was an evolution. And I’m still discovering new kinks! Recently, I’ve found that I enjoy impact play - being flogged - much more than I ever thought I would.
E: Any last thoughts we should know? Words of encouragement, mantra to live by, etc.?
LF: Life is short, you can only live it once, and your fantasies aren’t going to realize themselves. Go do that thing you’re jerking off to instead of just wanking to it.
DD: There’s no wrong way to enjoy chastity! You can be a locked top, you can be permanently self locked, you can enjoy being locked a few hours at a time. If it turns you on and you’re having fun, then you’re doing chastity play just fine! Explore, be fearless, and surprise yourself!
LF: And of course check out Chastity Pod, available for free on all podcast streaming platforms!
There you go! I can’t encourage anyone enough to give this podcast a go. These gentlemen are guaranteed to teach you a few new things about chastity, kink, and embracing your desires. Their honest, hilarious, and insightful discussions might just spark some new fantasies—or reignite some old ones.
Who knows? Listen long enough, and you too might find yourself joining the ranks of long-term lock devotees. Go on, stay curious, and happy exploring!
