Small Gestures that Speak Volumes In Any Love Language
Article written by Maya Vukovska
The English sci-fi writer Arthur Clarke once said, “Judge me by my deeds, though they are few, rather than my words, though they are many.” This cannot be more true when it comes to love and relationships. You can swear-your-heart-and-hope-to-die as long as you want that you love someone, but words are just words until you mean what you say. If you are dating someone who makes you feel hesitant about his true intentions and feelings, then you should probably look for subtle behavior signals that showcase his love and devotion for you. How to do the test? Just watch out for these signs, honey, and you’ll know for sure if that’s the right man, or not.
He is observant
He remembers what you were wearing when you first met and when your mom’s birthday is? Great, but that’s for amateurs, really. A truly committed guy has done his homework and would notice all those small things that make you happy on a daily basis. Like, your favorite pizza topping depending on your current mood - anchovy, when you’re nostalgic, pepperoni & pepper - when horny, and beef, basil, and mozzarella - when you're in the I-don’t-care-about-my-diet mood. He would also care to remember your first pet’s name, and the story about how you had your front tooth chipped when you were 12. These things clearly show that he is willing to involve with you on a more personal level.
He is always traceable
He never disappears on you, and then makes some lame excuse that he had to go to Beattyville, Kentucky to check on a sick aunt. Plus, it doesn’t take him ages to respond to your texts or phone calls. If he’s late for a date or a planned event, he delivers the true reason for that, no matter how embarrassing it may sound. And the best part is that he won’t mind if you install one of those location tracking apps on your phone that can show his whereabouts at any minute. After all, if one has nothing to hide, why should they be uncomfortable with being easy to find?…
He leans closer when you’re talking
And that’s not because he has hearing problems! His leaning forward as if he wants to hear better indicates his full engagement in the conversation, that is, he really wants to hear you, and not just the words coming out of your mouth. This involuntary gesture comes to show that whatever you’re saying is as important to him, as it is important to you. Another sign that the guy’s a keeper, baby!
He always finds a moment for you
No matter how busy he is, he’ll always take a moment to call or text “just because”. That’s an explicit sign that he doesn’t want you for sex or Netflix series binge-watching only. He thinks about you all the time, and every hour without seeing or hearing from you feels like torture to him. Although you can’t guarantee him a $500,000 revenue from his recent investment, you seem to be his priority. How cannot one be flattered by THAT kind of attention!
He stays the night after a fantastic sex
Unlike your previous boyfriends who’d come up with ridiculous excuses to get out of your bedroom as soon as the fucking part is over, this one asks if he can stay the night. A clear indication that he is not interested in sex only! As for the sex itself, things are also quite different. And in a good way. He won’t just flip you over onto your stomach, spread your buttocks and starts pumping your arsehole. Instead, he’ll ask if you want to top or bottom, and will whisper in your year how and where he wants to touch you.
He small talks with your best female BFF
And that’s his forte. Not only is he making the effort to get to know your friend, but he refrains from questioning your strong preference for her. That’s a sign that he really wants to spend as much time as possible in your world, a huge part of which happens to be occupied by your BFF.
70% of all communication happens non-verbally. Don’t wait for your man to make grand gestures to show that he loves you. Small gestures though can make a bigger difference. You need to look closely and they’ll tell you whether this man is just a short-term fling or the real thing.