Let’s get one thing clear: I love the gays. Love them. Worship them. Would die for them in a lip sync battle. But if you’ve been in this rainbow-colored world long enough, you know it’s not all poppers and pool parties. The gay world will hand you glitter, then slap you across the face with it. 💅

So buckle up, babes. Here are 7 harsh truths the gay world teaches you — whether you like it or not.

1. The thirst will lie to your face.

Men will say anything when they want to cum. Sweet nothings, fake plans, even pretend to like Taylor Swift just to get in your jockstrap. And when it’s over? Suddenly he’s “super busy with work” and can’t text back. Newsflash: if he’s charming, hot, and says “you’re different from other guys,” he’s probably feeding that line to three other men… while inside a fourth.

2. The abs will get attention, but the heart gets left on read.

You will absolutely notice the difference in how you’re treated when you’re at your fittest. And you’ll wonder: Why didn’t they like me when I looked like a human instead of a Calvin Klein mannequin? Because honey, this community can be shallow as a puddle in Palm Springs. It’s not fair, it’s not right, but it is very, very real.

3. “Masc4Masc” is just code for “I’m deeply insecure.”

We all love a bro who smells like sweat and sadness, but when a man insists on being aggressively masculine, chances are he’s hiding behind it like a frat boy behind a Solo cup. Gender expression is a spectrum, sweetie. If he flinches when you say “Yass,” he’s not ready for you — or therapy.

4. Even in the rainbow, there’s shade.

Racism, fatphobia, femmephobia — yeah, we have all of it. We love to act like we’re one big chosen family, but there’s plenty of snubbing and subtle hate wrapped in “preferences.” Being queer doesn’t magically make you inclusive. You still gotta do the work.

5. Not all gay men are kind.

This one hurts. You grow up thinking, “Finally, my people!” and then one of them calls you ugly on Grindr because your torso isn’t airbrushed. Gays can be catty, mean, elitist — and sometimes it feels like Mean Girls was a documentary filmed at a gay brunch.

6. You’ll mistake attention for affection.

It feels good to be wanted. Especially if you grew up feeling like the odd one out. So when someone finally desires you, you might start confusing a hookup for a husband. Just remember: someone wanting your body doesn’t always mean they value your soul. And that’s okay — just don’t go naming the kids after one night in his loft.

7. You are not everyone’s type. But you ARE worthy.

No matter how much glitter you throw on it, this world can make you feel invisible if you don’t fit a certain mold. But the truth is: you are worthy of love, friendship, and respect — before you lose 10 pounds, before you get that jaw filler, and definitely before you change who you are to please someone else.

💋 Final Thought

The gay world can chew you up, honey. But it can also give you lifelong friendships, euphoric dance floors, and chosen family who love you harder than blood ever did. Learn the lessons. Grow the armor. But keep that heart soft. There’s still beauty under the harshness — and you deserve every bit of it.

Now go moisturize, hydrate, and love yourself better than that man from Hinge ever will. 💅