Stop Scrolling Hookup Sites When You’re Actively on a Date—And Other Horrid Habits to Leave in 2024

By Eris Chase  

We literally watched this go down live in full. Looking over and our hearts just  hurt, like, OMFG this guy is NOT actively scrolling for a hookup at the table  while he is clearly on a date with a very hot and sweet looking guy??!! But, he  was. Chats and all. It was the definition of “You, sir, are a trash human.” Oh,  and, for bonus points, he didn't seem plussed at all when his date tried to draw  his attention back, he just kept typing away. Gross. Anyway, look, babes, we’ve  all got bad habits. We do. But, some desperately need to be left behind— permanently. So, here’s a handy list of things we’re banning in 2025 for the good of our collective eternal souls.

1. Scrolling While on a Date  

We live for a multitask, but unless you’re a surgeon on call, you need to put the  phone down. Be present. Engage. Flirt a little. Eye contact won’t kill you—you  will live a long and happy life if you miss a text and find yourself drowning in  your date’s soft brown eyes instead. Focus sweetness.  

2. Talking About Your Ex Non-Stop  

Yes, we all have exes, and yes, some of them might have brought so much next  level drama it makes for hilarious stories, but when your date asked about your  life, he didn’t mean, “Please tell me about every terrible thing Garret did to you  between 2019 and last summer.” A brief mention? Fine. A one-man show about  your past trauma? Honey, no.  

3. Ghosting Instead of Communicating  

Babe, we’re all adults here. If you’re not into someone, just say it. Seriously.  Leaving someone on read is just not the jam. It takes two seconds to say, “Hey, I  don’t think we’re a match, but good luck out there!” It’s the literal least you can  do and it saves a LOT of hurt feelings, emotional scars and questions of “What  did I do wrong?” 

4. Posting Everything on Socials Mid-Date  

We get it, you’re living your best life. Samsies. But do we really need to see a  shot of your margarita from five different angles with layered filters and effects?  Is your date staring at the menu and actively starving to death while you are  arranging your amuse-bouche like it’s going on the cover of Bon Appétit? You.  Are. The. Trauma. Stop with the Influencer life for once, your fans can wait until  the date is over to see what your crab cakes looked like. Promise.  

5. Using Pet Names Too Soon  

Okay, we’ll admit “baby” rolls off our tongue like it lives on the tip of it, but  maybe hold off on taking the endearments too far. Calling someone “hubby”,  “daddy” or “Chad Von Sexington”before dessert? Let’s not continue to  prematurely ejaculate the pet names in 2025. Give the relationship time to  marinate, or at least wait until he’s seen you without your socks on.  

6. Bringing Up Marriage on the First Date  

As someone who got married at the end of a first date (true story), I don’t really  have a leg to stand on here, BUT, I will anyway. We all dream of finding that  special someone who’ll binge-watch trash TV with us until death do us part, but  maybe you shouldn’t start planning the wedding before you even know his  middle name. First dates are for fun, flirty vibes, not for asking if he’d prefer  blush or bashful for the reception colors.  

7. Expecting Perfection but Offering None  

We love a man with standards, but if you’re out here expecting Henry Cavil  while offering C student attractiveness vibes, it’s time for wee touch of self reflection. Bring your best self to the table, not just a list of impossible  demands. Nothing at all wrong with being mid, most of us are, it’s why it’s the  middle. We want you to aim high, but don’t forget to look in your own lane  too. 

In 2025, try your best to love better, and stop with the horrid habits. Dating is  fun, sexy, and maybe just a little chaotic if you’re doing it right. Remember:  nothing kills a vibe faster than a bad habit, so leave yours in the past where  they belong.