Alright, babes, let’s get one thing straight—we’re not straight. But beyond that, there are some wild assumptions people make about gay men that need to be thrown directly into the trash. Whether it’s clueless straight people or even some baby gays who just stepped out of the closet and into their first crop top, there are some seriously delulu ideas about who we are and how we live.

So, let’s bust these myths faster than a twink rips off his shirt at a Pride parade.

1. “Gay Men Are Walking Fashion Encyclopedias”

Look, yes, some of us can break down the entire history of Versace and tell you why your color palette is a crime against humanity. But guess what? Some gay men dress like they just rolled out of a dumpster behind a Home Depot.

For every perfectly accessorized queen in a matching monochrome fit, there’s a dude out there rocking cargo shorts and a graphic tee from 2006. Some of us slay, some of us… just exist. And that’s okay.

2. “Gay Relationships Are Drama-Free and Chill”

HA. HA. HAAAAA.

Oh, sweet summer child, you thought that since two men are dating, there would be less drama? That we would just “bro it out” and play video games in peace? No, baby.

Have you seen gay relationships? Between the emotional depth, the mutual attraction to the same type of men (sometimes each other’s exes), and the petty arguments over which Madonna era was superior—it’s chaos, but make it glamorous.

3. “We All Want Sex 24/7”

Now, don’t get me wrong—some of us could host a TED Talk on strategic Grindr meetups. But there’s this weird idea that all gay men are just walking thirst traps with one goal: getting laid.

Newsflash! Some of us just want to cuddle, watch bad reality TV, and complain about how hard it is to find a good man. Gay men are just as varied as anyone else. Some are DTF at all times, some are selectively thirsty, and some just want to bake banana bread and vibe.

4. “If You’re Gay, You Must Be Either Super Femme or Super Masc”

Oh, honey, gender expression is not a binary, and gay men come in every flavor. Some are full-on Sashay, Shantay realness, some are gruff and bearded, and most of us? Somewhere in between.

One day you’re serving fish in a cropped hoodie, the next you’re in sweatpants and haven’t shaved in a week. We contain multitudes. No need to put us in a box when we’re this versatile (except, of course, when it comes to… other kinds of versatility 👀).

5. “All Gay Men Automatically Like Each Other”

Oh, sweetheart, just because we’re all into men does NOT mean we’re all into each other. If that were the case, every straight man and woman would be married by now. Gay dating is just as messy, awkward, and full of heartbreak as straight dating—maybe even more so.

Yes, we share a community, but that doesn’t mean we share taste. Just because someone has a Y chromosome and a pulse does not mean we’re ready to drop our pants. Standards, people.

Final Thoughts: We’re More Than the Stereotypes

The reality is, being gay is an entire spectrum of experiences—we’re nerds, jocks, divas, introverts, himbos, and everything in between. The only real thing that unites us is a shared love for men (and probably a well-timed “YAS” when necessary).

So, next time you catch someone spouting one of these misconceptions, do us all a favor and educate them. Or just roll your eyes dramatically and sip your drink. Either works. 💅✨